How Do I Lose (Fill in the Blank)?

I get some version of this question all the time:

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How do I lose… belly fat? Arm fat? Back fat? Cellulite? Armpit fluff? You name it, I’ve heard it.

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Usually, the place we’re most fixated on is the last one to change. 

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Women want a flatter stomach. Men want a six-pack. But here’s the truth: if you have a lot of visceral fat, no amount of crunches will make your abs pop. The path is overall fat loss, not spot training. (Fun fact: There are more millionaires in the U.S. than people with six-pack abs.)

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And let’s just say it: all women have cellulite. Literally all of us.

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Now, if you’re eating well, sleeping, managing stress, moving your body regularly, maintaining a healthy weight and you still don’t look like a fitness model—please hear this:

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Genetics play a huge role. Sure, you can change them to a point, but “perfection” is a myth.  

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Bodies change. Hormones shift. Gravity shows up to the party. Comparing your 50-year-old self to your 25-year-old self isn’t fair (or productive). Instead, celebrate the strength, resilience, and wisdom you’ve built along the way.

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If you’re scrolling social media and feeling worse about your body—unfollow. Those photos are edited, filtered, and curated. They are not reality.

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So what is the answer?

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Celebrate your body. Take care of it with love. Feed it nourishing food, set goals, lift heavy things, move it in ways that bring you joy. You don’t need a six-pack or smoother thighs to be worthy or happy. 

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True story: I often look around the gym and marvel at the things all of you can do, things that most people are unable to.

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So, do the right things—and not because you’re chasing flawlessness, but because your body is worth the effort. Healthy always looks good. 

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You are strong. You are capable. You’re doing great. Keep going.